Johnny Sings "Isang Linggong Pag-Ibig"


My good friend K has just experienced his very own Isang Linggong Pag-Ibig with a person I’ll conveniently call Dude. They got hitched on Christmas Day after a mere 2 days of courtship, met the boy’s friends and relatives, and then promptly snapped out of it just after New Year. I’m not exactly sure what K said during the breakup, but what I do know is that he spilled the dirt via text message (gasp!).
It began when K and Dude met in Malate, hooked up and K brought him home for the requisite fornication.
 K: (Post-coitus) “Are you leaving already? Do you want to stay?”
Dude: “…Forever?”
That’s when K did a back handspring triple twist backward salto right into bottom Dude’s ass. And heart, apparently. A week after, they've split.


I blame it on a few things:
1)      Both parties were drunk before they met eyes in Bed and up until the hook up.
2)      It was the holiday season. Statistically, December  is the month that has the most cases of clinical depression in the Philippines, Ireland, United States and Zaire. Holiday blues are as real as peanut butter and the symptoms are greatest among single faeries. Such symptoms include promiscuity, sleepless nights and false boyfriend hallucinations.
3)      When my sidekick and I met, K was there to make kilatis. K did not even introduce me to Dude before the hitching. My valuable objective pagkilatis was not utilized.
4)      Peer Pressure: I was recently partnered the previous month. Feeling left out, K wanted a sidekick for himself too.
5)      Male competition: I was partnered after 3 days so the biatch got hitched on impulse after 2 days. It’s neither a good thing nor a bad thing, but risky: an extremely short (or virtually non-existent) courtship or dating means you’re up for either a pleasant or pungent surprise.
The relationship was turning sour for K and the coldness of the holidays crept right into them. It was just a dream, a fleeting memory, t a week-long MMFF movie marathon that got tiring. K texted me that he wanted to end it, and I replied with all the support an SMS can carry. I told him to be strong, be firm on his decision and be very clear on why he’s breaking up with Dude; an ambiguous, unsure reason will only give Dude a lot to hold on to.  K really needed to end it soon because he’s already been meeting several boys on the side anyway.
Fellow blogger McVie blogged about the how people getting dumped get all the sympathy even as the dumper could go through the same shit and get just as fucked up; there are other nuances to the dumper experience that can rival the sorrow of the dumpee. Hurting another person is a very unpleasant experience especially when the pain is undeserved. And when the breakup is nobody's fault, the dumper still ends up looking like the jerk.
 ...who needs just as much support.



17 coumouents:

engel said...

i sympathize with the dumper just as much as the dumpee. there's always two sides to a story anyway.

Galen said...

I show sympathy with the dumper only when:

1. the separation has justifiable reasons.

2. the dumpee and the dumper are both my friends.

Everyone knows that the dumper should have the foresight to see if the relationship would work or not. I still think maturity is a big requirement for a commitment to work.

But I have to agree. Even dumpers go through the same shit too.

rudeboy said...

@ Johnny Cursive : Good insights. I've always said we're all fools for love, but infatuation is a whole different kind of stupidity.

@ Galen : "Everyone knows that the dumper should have the foresight to see if the relationship would work or not."

Correct me if I'm wrong, but this sounds like only the "dumper" bears the sole responsibility of assessing a relationship's chances of working or not. Takes two to tango, it's not a one-way street and all that. The eventual "dumpee" deserves what he gets if he doesn't take some responsibility for assessment, himself.

" I still think maturity is a big requirement for a commitment to work."

This I agree with. Although not even maturity can make a relationship work when said relationship has reached the end of its course (see Sarandon, Susan and Robbins, Tim).

Eternal Wanderer... said...

Curvie: someone's interestted in k.

it's not me a! :P

let's talk about it soon ;)

Ruddie: lemme ammend that.

it takes maturity to make a relationship work, and even more maturity to end it in a gracious manner.

iurico said...

ternie - lemme also ammend that...

It takes maturity to make a relationship work and even more maturity to end it in a gracious manner... Then move on and find someone else.

Hahaha

Eternal Wanderer... said...

Iuri: nakow, napaghahalataan ka lolz

Galen said...

@Rudeboy:

The eventual "dumpee" deserves what he gets if he doesn't take some responsibility for assessment, himself.

That's why I said:

1. the separation has justifiable reasons.

Believe it or not, some dumper would abandon someone just for the most capricious reasons.

This I agree with. Although not even maturity can make a relationship work when said relationship has reached the end of its course

Then we follow Ternie's amendments.

john stanley said...

hindi pa rin ako magsasalita kahit na kanina pa ko tinatamaan sa diskusyong ito, hehehe!

PILYO said...

one thing for sure, kilala ko si K ? di ba? or should i say namin. Based on your CLUE.

Sana pinakilatis din sau ni K ang kanyang dude para naman makapagbigay ka ng opinyon na tulad ng pagkilatis ni K sa sidekick mo ! hahahaha.

See u later. mwahhhh.

citybuoy said...

it seems like you're a very good friend to k. i hope he's okay.

spot on observations re:holiday madness. ang dami kong friends na nagkakaganto tuwing pasko at balentayms. haha let's blame it on the media yet again.

Boying Opaw said...

"And when the breakup is nobody's fault, the dumper still ends up looking like the jerk."

-- someone has got to dump somebody.

"I blame it on a few things: ..."

people like me don't. hee hee.

natawa ako sa "dumper - dumpee".

paci said...

oh my..and i thought imelda papin's song does not happen in reality.
true, both parties need support. =)

by the way , i'm new at this so may i add you to my list?

Darc Diarist said...

lol @ iurico and john stan.

hmmm, no easy way to break somebody's heart. but if it ain't working out, you got to do what you got to do. hay, hirap...

thecurioscat said...

my partner's been fooling around and I'm hurting, if I dump him, will he gets all the sympathy?

Darc Diarist said...

@xtian: hell no!

Herbs D. said...

ba-da-bing ba-da-boom!

Manech said...

You're funny. :)

I like this one the most:

"That’s when K did a back handspring triple twist backward salto right into bottom Dude’s ass."

It's so... intricate. :)